Would you go out with a bartender and date him? And I don't mean just fun for one night?

You sound like a really intelligent, attractive guy! The bartending is just a hobby that you enjoy--which is great! Personally, if I knew everything else about the man and loved his personality and he was a great guy and a match for me, I probably wouldn't have a problem with the bartending business. Your decent girl next door is out there, so keep looking. And as 'Revolution' stated first, look in the venues of your other hobbies. The perfect girl is out there for you. I'm just sorry you have to be crushed repeatedly by the poor girls at your bar. You deserve more and a whole lot better than that.